One of the first signs that a man might be struggling is a noticeable shift in his behaviour. There are other signs such as mood fluctuations and irritability, loss of interest in hobbies and even some unique signs only you as a mate might identify. In this post I’ll share some potential signs and some ideas of how to support a man if he is struggling.
Key signs to look for in today’s fast-paced world, men often face immense pressure to project strength and composure. As a result, many might be battling emotional struggles silently, making it crucial for friends and loved ones to recognise the signs indicating that a man may be struggling. Understanding these indicators allows us to provide meaningful support and encouragement. In this guide, we’ll explore how to identify if a man is struggling, offering insights and practical advice on fostering open communication and offering him some help.
1. Notice Behavioural Changes
One of the first signs that a man might be struggling is a noticeable shift in his behaviour. When someone I care about becomes withdrawn, less engaged, or shows signs of irritability, it’s a signal that something deeper may be at play. Look for changes in routine, social interactions, and general demeanour. If a once-outgoing friend becomes increasingly isolated, reach out. A simple message to ask how he’s doing can be the first step toward making him feel less alone. Be sincere, and accepting of any response.
How to approach a man that might be struggling
Start with casual check-ins. – Share your observations in a non-confrontational way. Offer a space for him to express himself without pressure, advice or “fixing”.
2. Mood Fluctuations and Irritability
Emotional turmoil often manifests through mood swings and irritability. If you notice that a man is experiencing extreme highs and lows or becomes easily frustrated over minor issues, these could be signs of internal struggle. Creating an open and safe environment for communication is essential. During such times, extending a listening ear can help him articulate his feelings and understand that wanting to talk about emotions, particularly anger, sadness, or fear, is a strength, not a weakness.
A few tips on open discussions and listening skills
· Encourage open discussions about feelings.
· Be patient and listen without rushing to solve problems.
· Validate his emotions and let him know it’s okay to feel what he feels whether is anger, sadness or fear. Acceptance is a powerful offer during this step.
3. Physical Symptoms of Distress
Emotional challenges can manifest physically. If a man repeatedly complains of fatigue, headaches, changes in sleep patterns, or a loss of appetite, it may be a sign that he’s struggling emotionally. Encouraging healthy habits can foster a sense of well-being; suggest activities such as exercise, yoga, or even simple relaxation techniques.
Be part of the solution and encourage healthy choices.
· Encourage regular physical activity or for more support
· Join him in activities.
· Share healthy coping habits like mindfulness or meditation.
· Be part of solutions by helping out, participating and assisting in seeking professional help if necessary.
4. Loss of Interest in Hobbies
When a man loses enthusiasm for previously enjoyed activities, it could signal a deeper issue. Hobbies provide an essential outlet for stress relief, and their disappearance may indicate he’s struggling internally. If you observe this change, gently inquire and remind him to engage in those activities again. Re-kindling passions can help restore a sense of joy, purpose and fulfilment.
Restore connection to hobbies
· Invite him to join you in his former hobbies.
· Remind him of the joy these activities brought.
· Offer to explore new interests together to spark excitement.
5. Create Open Communication
Creating an environment for open communication can significantly benefit a man who is struggling. This may require you modelling what that looks like. Let him know that you’re always available to listen without judgement. Establishing this sanctuary where he can freely express his emotions helps him to feel supported and understood during tough times.
Start a conversation
· Initiate conversations about mental health casually.
· Share your feelings and experiences to model vulnerability.
· Encourage him to be open about what’s weighing on his mind.
· Ask open questions he can answer freely. NO ADVICE GIVING AT THIS POINT
6. Acknowledge Unique Signs
Every individual shows unique signs of struggle. While some men may be more vocal, others may be quieter about their distress. Trusting your instincts is vital when you notice a change in his behaviour or demeanour. Your concern can be a catalyst for him to share what he’s going through, potentially motivating him to seek assistance.
Inquire with curiosity and an openness to being corrected
· Pay attention to small changes and ask thoughtful questions.
· Validate his feelings and emphasise that it’s okay to ask for help.
· Offer consistent support, reminding him he’s not alone.
· Keep an eye on any increase in substance use or abuse.
7. Encourage Professional Support
If his challenges become overwhelming or start affecting his daily life, gently suggest seeking professional support. Emphasise that therapy or counselling has helped countless people navigate tough times. Reassure him that reaching out for support is a sign of strength, self worth and courage, not weakness, and can be an important step toward healing and growth.
Explore potential positive outcomes from receiving support
· Share success stories of individuals who sought help.
· Offer to assist him in finding a mental health professional.
· Reinforce that prioritising mental health is an essential aspect of being a strong and supportive man. For himself and his family and loved ones.
Conclusion
Identifying if a man is struggling requires sensitivity, empathy, and attentiveness. By recognising behavioural changes, mood fluctuations, physical symptoms, loss of interest in activities, and fostering open communication, you create an environment where he can feel safe to share his struggles. Your support can be pivotal in helping him navigate the complexities of his emotions. Encouraging professional help can also empower him to take critical steps toward healing.
Professional help can range from a men’s coach like Conversations With Kyle, right through to psychotherapists and psychologists.
Remember, fostering a culture of openness around mental health not only aids in reducing the stigma surrounding emotional struggles but also reinforces the bonds of mateship. Every act of kindness, and every encouraging word can be a beacon of hope, resilience, and transformation in his journey. Be there for him, and guide him to his path of healing and recovery.
Take action
If you or someone you know is facing challenges right now, schedule a complimentary 30 minute chat with me. You [or your mate] don’t have to navigate life’s struggles alone. I’m here to help men reclaim their purpose, find clarity and build a brighter, more fulfilling future by supporting self actualisation and stepping into their power.