I’m Kyle.

Once upon a time I had three emotions. Happy. Angry. Shutdown.

I couldn’t hold a relationship from that place. And the relationship ended. No surprise really.

So I had a choice. Do something about it, or repeat the same pattern.

I did something about it. I went from explosive to self regulated, with good men around me. Men older and more experienced than me, who held me accountable and didn’t tell me what to do. I’ve been part of a weekly men’s group for several years, and I’ve led men’s circles and workshops. I had to relearn how to communicate. And I had to discover my emotions and nervous system states. And my life and relationships all round have dramitically improved.

This isn’t just talk. Here’s what we work on:

• Emotional vocabulary, so there’s more than happy, angry and shutdown
• Self awareness and self regulation, so I can stay steady when it gets heated
• What to actually say in a hard conversation, using authentic relating and non-violent communication (NVC)
• The mature masculine archetypes, from Jungian psychology
• Setting up your own men’s group, if you want one

I know the shame that comes with needing help. I know what it’s like to not have it together and to not know what to do.

If a relationship has ended, if you keep reacting in ways you don’t like, or if you just feel lost, I can help. No bullshit, I can.

Men tell me they end up clear on what matters and sure of their next step. They’re in charge of their emotions, not run by them. He can stay calm in a hard conversation, hold a boundary without a fight, and show up as a grounded man who stands on solid ground. Confident, and not pretending. Trust in himself, valued and respected. 

You are more than your patterns. 

Book your free clarity call below. 30 minutes, no pressure. We’ll see if I can help, and if we’re a good fit for each other.